Cleared of Sexual Abuse, the Rev. Edward McDonagh Turns His Initial Grief into Understanding and Returns to His Supportive Parish
By Bella English
February 20, 2003
It was a beautiful Thursday morning, last May 23, when the phone rang in the rectory at St. Ann's Church in West Bridgewater. The Rev. Edward McDonagh was preparing the bulletin for that Sunday's service. On the line was an official of the Boston Archdiocese. The office had received an allegation that McDonagh had sexually abused a boy at his first parish nearly 40 years ago. Would he please report to the chancery the following day?
"I remember replying, `You know, my life has just ended,' " McDonagh recalled recently. "I went to a friend's home and just cried." The next day, after the meeting in which they gave him the name of the alleged victim, church officials ordered McDonagh out of the rectory where he had lived for nearly 12 years. He gathered some belongings in a suitcase and left before his parishioners knew what had happened.
When he closed that rectory door, McDonagh opened a door on a new life that he was to live for nine months, until his name was cleared last week. "I don't want to use the word `hell,' but it's a kind of limbo," he said. "That's the place where you're neither here nor there. I felt nowhere."
It was a journey of soul-searching that took him through various stages, beginning with anger and grief and ending, he said, with peace and understanding. His personality has changed, too. A self-described shy man, he would always decline to socialize with his parishioners; he was mostly business. Today, he readily embraces them -- patting backs, hugging, shaking hands -- like a politician on the campaign trail.
McDonagh was officially reinstated a week ago, after being cleared by the archdiocese's sexual abuse review board. He is the first parish priest to be reinstated; 23 others await their verdicts. Monsignor Michael Foster, a canon lawyer, was cleared in November.
At St. Ann's last Friday night, it was as if the pope himself had come to visit. The church was standing room only, and as the pastor walked down the aisle to the organ strains of "O Holy Night," the congregation took to its feet, applauding and whistling. Yellow ribbons, which had become the official emblem of the church that had stood by its man, adorned every railing and most lapels. Two huge yellow bows framed the figure of Jesus over the altar. Sprays of yellow flowers were everywhere. During the offertory, parishioners young and old brought up bundles of letters and cards tied in yellow ribbons; these were the ones they sent McDonagh during his suspension -- which he had kept -- including one from a youngster admonishing the priest that he had "been on vacation long enough."
McDonagh seemed overwhelmed. "I can't thank you enough for your perseverance and trust in me these past nine months," he told them. He added, as parishioners giggled: "I don't know if this is what a woman experiences after she carries a baby for nine months. My sense is one of great relief and joy." In the parish hall afterward, parishioners signed a guest book and ate from tables groaning with goodies they had made.
During Mass, McDonagh said he had found peace through reading and rereading Cardinal Joseph Bernardin's "The Gift of Peace." Like him, Bernardin, archbishop of Chicago, had been accused of sexual abuse. Both priests were 65 years old when they were accused. Both accusers had died of AIDS. And both priests were eventually cleared.
"The difference was, he [Bernardin] was able to meet with the young man and be reconciled with him," McDonagh said. "That I won't have the opportunity to do, because the young man has died."
In fact, the man who accused McDonagh died six years before the complaint surfaced. In a letter to the archdiocese, the man's sister claimed McDonagh had abused him in 1964 at the Incarnation Church in Melrose, McDonagh's first assignment after graduating from St. John's Seminary in Brighton. McDonagh says he does not recall the accuser. In her letter, the sister detailed her brother's history of substance abuse, psychiatric problems, and life as a prostitute, ending with his 1996 death from AIDS.
"They gave me a name, and I didn't know it, and I still don't remember it," McDonagh said during a recent interview. "The family said he was a lector, but in those days, we didn't have lectors."
When the archdiocese first placed him on paid leave, McDonagh said he was furious: "I screamed and cried and hollered and hit the wall." He was also naive. He didn't take an attorney to the meeting with church officials. He was not given a copy of the letter of complaint against him. In the meeting, he denied the allegation and expressed displeasure that his parishioners had to learn of the ordeal on the evening news, instead of from him.
Then there was the more immediate issue. Where would he go? "Do you expect me to live in my car?" he asked them. He was assured that he could get a hotel room and the archdiocese would pay for it. For several months, McDonagh lived in a hotel in nearby Brockton, where he became a regular at a couple of restaurants and coffee shops. The archdiocese had asked him to stay out of West Bridgewater and told him he could no longer wear his clerical collar or perform any priestly duties.
That first week, he lost seven pounds. His doctor told him he had to eat and recommended a protein drink.
A church man
So what did he do for nine months? He drove around, walked, and watched television. Parishioners would occasionally visit. He took one of them to medical appointments. He sent regular messages to be inserted into the Sunday bulletins. He prayed and read, with Bernardin's book becoming his "bible."
He also went, unnoticed, to Mass at St. Gerard Majella Church in Canton, where the outspoken priest, the Rev. Bernard McLaughlin, was an early critic of Cardinal Bernard Law and his handling of the abuse scandal.
McDonagh, too, had been publicly critical of Law and had informed archdiocesan officials last March that his church would not participate at that time in the Promise for Tomorrow fund-raising campaign. From the pulpit, he rescinded his oath of obedience to Law and got a standing ovation. Soon after, he was removed from the church -- an action that his parishioners are certain was retaliation. The abuse complaint was received in March; McDonagh wasn't suspended until May, shortly after his critical homilies.
McDonagh doesn't necessarily see a conspiracy. "They got a complaint, and they had to deal with it," he said. "They were getting hammered by all sides." He is quick to add, though, that his case "could have been handled more expeditiously" And he said he's pleased that the old "zero tolerance" approach toward accused priests will be replaced March 1 by more due process, with written guidelines.
McDonagh is a priest out of the old school. He is courtly and quiet, seems most at ease wearing his collar ("It's who I am"), and calls celebrating the Eucharist "the center of my life." Growing up Irish in Jamaica Plain in the 1940s and '50s, he went into the priesthood in part because of the culture. "It was very difficult to advance in the business or education fields," he said. The seminary entrance exam was given over two days, so he would take the test during the day, then rush over to St. Thomas Aquinas High School, where he'd sing "That's Amore!" to a "beautiful blonde" in the school play.
When he was accepted to seminary, his mother was thrilled. "Every Irish mother prayed that one of her sons would become a priest so when she died she would have someone to pray for her," he said.
Even today, after what he calls his "humiliation," McDonagh is reluctant to criticize his beloved Catholic Church. "I don't want to rehash the bad. It's over; it's done. I'm a church man, and the church needs to be healed," he said. And though he's not fond of Law, he can relate to him. "As a brother priest, I can identify with the pain he's experiencing now that his role as a priest has been diminished."
Throughout McDonagh's ordeal, his parish stood behind him, holding a prayer vigil every Sunday night for his return. They stuck lawn signs around town: "We Support Father McDonagh." Not a day passed when he did not receive a card or letter from one of them; some sent $5 or $10 bills.
When a representative of the archdiocese came to meet with parishioners just after McDonagh's removal, they nearly drummed him out of there, refusing to let him speak. They raised money for an attorney, but parishioner David Sorrenti insisted on representing McDonagh pro bono.
Still, there wasn't much even the lawyer could do except "make noise" -- and wait. The archdiocese did not return McDonagh's calls. On the two occasions that a bishop called to see how he was doing, McDonagh said, "Get me back!" Meanwhile, a revolving door of priests assumed his duties, led by the Rev. Francis Cloherty, vicar of Brockton.
Summer turned into fall, and the sacred season of Advent approached. The parish continued its Sunday evening vigils, but it was perhaps the darkest time for McDonagh. "I had anticipated this would have been resolved by Christmas," he said, "but it was not to be."
For McDonagh, the time spent in exile was both humbling and illuminating. "We really do not have control over our lives," he said. "Job says that when bad things happen, most people ask, `Why, God?' The question should be, `OK, God, this has happened. What am I going to do about it?' I realized I had no control over the situation, and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it."
What he also realized was how much his parishioners cared about him. "I'm not a touchy-feely guy," he said. "I was their priest, not their buddy. But the love those people showed me was the most unbelievable experience of my life." Now, he said, he feels more "like a brother" to them. "I'm more comfortable. I'm more understanding of human nature, of pain." In church that first night back he also told them, to laughter: "I understand better what you go through sitting in a pew."
Parishioner Jodi Savage, who helped organize the prayer vigils, says the parish has learned, too. "I think we've all changed. We took for granted the people who mean so much to us. It's not until we're threatened do we realize how much we all need each other."
Believe it or not, McDonagh says that until the scandal broke, he never realized that there were pedophile priests. "I always knew who the drunks were, and the bad priests, the ones who didn't do their jobs." As for pedophilia: "I was an ignorant idiot. I never associated the priesthood with that kind of activity."
In the fall, the archdiocese asked McDonagh to find an apartment because the hotel bills had mounted. In the one-bedroom Brockton apartment, there's mismatched furniture borrowed from parishioners, an unmade bed, and a refrigerator full of takeout containers, along with a few cans of Miller Lite. The books on his shelf range from "Betrayal: The Crisis in the Catholic Church" to "The Parables of Peanuts." On a yellow legal pad, he had scrawled a homily titled "Lessons Learned."
Three weeks ago, McDonagh was called to a meeting with Bishop Richard Lennon, Law's temporary successor. The priest was nervous; he'd had no indication of which way the investigation was going. "I was either going to be restored or looking for a job." After some small talk, Lennon told him that the review board had found the allegation unsubstantiated. According to canon law, the complainant had 10 more days to appeal the decision to the archdiocese and 15 days to appeal it to Rome. She did neither.
A decree restored McDonagh to active ministry on Feb. 14 -- 41 years to the day that he had been ordained. McDonagh expressed joy in his restoration, but there was one more thing he had to do: renew the vows of obedience that he had broken with Law. He knelt before Lennon, put his hands in the bishop's, and pledged obedience.
McDonagh will move back into the rectory at the end of the month, when his apartment lease expires. He will continue the Sunday night prayer vigils held for him: From now on, they will pray for people hurt by the scandal. They will give thanks for the restoration of St. Ann's. And they will pray for the family who accused McDonagh. "I'm praying for them," he said, "that whatever hurt they are experiencing, they may find the peace the world cannot give."
This story ran on page D1 of the Boston Globe on 2/20/2003.
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