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  If It Could Happen to Me
Help from Men Who've Been There

Christianity Today [United States]
January 1, 2001

http://www.ctlibrary.com/le/2001/winter/13.93.html

After helping Leadership craft its survey on this subject, I had to admit to the editors that Internet pornography was a personal issue for me.

This was not a pleasant thing to share. You see, I'm a psychologist. It's my job to help people with addictions. And I'm a Christian. I was reared in a godly home with a father who never pursued this vice. But I, his son who knew better, did. I started with Playboy, moved on to movies, videos, and finally, the Internet.

For many years, I binged, going as long as two years without buying a magazine or renting a video, only to give in again. Then my job gave me access to the Internet. No longer did I have to risk buying pornography in person.

I was hooked. I tried to stop. I confessed-repented-sinned again and again. I was distressed but I didn't stop. Several months passed; I knew I had to tell somebody.

After much agonizing I called a colleague, Bill, and asked if we could meet for a cup of coffee. I prayed for God's help. I told Bill my problem. I asked if he would help me be accountable, if he would meet with me weekly and see if that helped. Confessing was painful. I knew Bill respected me professionally, and I risked losing that.

But God enabled me to pick as a partner a man in whom trust was justified. That was six years ago. We're still friends, we still talk and e-mail on occasion, though a job change ended our meetings.

For the past three years, I've been meeting with three guys from my church. We all have acknowledged sexual sins, and we all desire to serve God and be free. We're not perfect, we still struggle on occasion. But looking back we can see real progress; God is bringing us along, helping us to pursue holiness.

I'm convinced that it is ...

 
 

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