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	Sandusky Case Triggers Pain Well beyond Campus By Kari Huus MSNBC November 16, 2011 http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/45314171/ns/us_news-life/t/sandusky-case-triggers-pain-well-beyond-campus/from/toolbar As the Penn State sex abuse scandal unfolds — ghastly detail by detail — on front pages, the airwaves and Twitter accounts, the news can be especially devastating for one group in particular: former victims of sexual abuse. "Another night of triggers and flashbacks," writes a forum member on MaleSurvivor.org, a website devoted to healing male victims of sexual abuse. "… I felt him all over me and my arms are scratched as I try to get the feeling of his hands off me. … I think all the (Penn State) news set the triggers off, and now I am like a zombie, trying to recover and move forward today." "I never met Jerry Sandusky, but feel I know him all too well," writes another member of the forum, referring to the university's former defensive coordinator who stands accused of sexually molesting at least eight young boys. "I dealt with my own 'Jerry' when I was 12 or 13. … Now that he is sated and I am long forgotten, I'm still picking up the pieces." "This whole thing is devastating me. These boys are lost in the details ... just as most of us here were," the member added. Psychologists say that any sex abuse victim — man or woman — may find that news of the Penn State case sparks painful memories. But the way this case is unfolding strikes an especially deep chord with men. "It can be very triggering of either their own memories — they may get flashbacks — or they may get angry again," said Richard Gartner, a psychologist and psychoanalyst in New York, and spokesman for Malesurvivor.org. Some men may have to limit their news consumption, and maybe avoid watching football to avoid a panic attack or bout of depression, he said. "It is re-traumatizing for them — more so to the extent that they believe that this is being handled wrong … and ignoring the needs of the victims." Different experience for boys Sexual abuse has a different impact on boys than on girls, and they deal with it differently because of socialization, experts say. "Men aren't supposed to be victims. Men are supposed to be strong," said Jim Hopper, clinical instructor of psychology at Harvard Medical School. "A man says I'm not a real man, because I let someone do this to me. I should have been tougher. Even after years of therapy they say this." Girls who are abused by men are psychologically damaged, to be sure, experts say, but boys abused by men often come to question their sexual identity and orientation. "If they were sexually abused by a man, there's this whole stigma — does that mean I'm gay, or did he do it to me because I look gay?" says Hopper. Another difference: Boys who are forced into sexual acts may have an erection — a physiological response which makes them all the more confused and ashamed of the encounter, Gartner says. The women's movement helped bring sexual assault of females into the public eye — and led to tougher penalties against attackers, more policy aimed at prevention and better access to care for victims. The focus on sexual abuse of boys came nearly 20 years later, when hundreds of childhood victims went public with stories of abuse by Catholic priests, according to Gartner. Shame, silence, secrecy Still, the shame and stigma makes it less common for boys to report abuse and seek help than girls, studies show. "Men tend to come into treatment much later in life," said Gartner. "Usually they are in their 30s, 40s or 50s — occasionally in their 70s — never having spoken about this." Their reluctance to talk about abuse is partly to blame for the perception that sexual abuse of boys is rare, Gartner said. Research shows that about one in six boys are sexually abused before they are 16 years old, according to Hopper, a founding board member of the nonprofit organization 1in6, which aims to help men deal with abuse they experienced as children, and provides comprehensive resources on 1in6.org. The number for girls is one in four. The statistics do not include verbal harassment or other forms of non-physical sexual abuse, such as forcing a child to watch a sexual act. Reports of sexual abuse by boys are still more likely to be dismissed, researchers say, which can intensify the victim's pain and difficulty later in life. "Boys who are sexually abused are mostly disbelieved, or it is minimized," said Gartner. "They're told, 'just get over it'." "They learn that nobody's safe," said Hopper. "That's really devastating. … that people who were supposed to protect me are not going to help me, they are blaming me!" That perception by a child can lead to a wide array of problems as they grow older, including depression, anxiety, emotional numbing, substance abuse, and difficulty forming healthy relationships. PTSD in high gear Robert Brown, 51, who is now open about his story, was repeatedly sexually assaulted over the course of seven years when he was a child. He says the perpetrators were older boys who were favored because they were top athletes in his small New Hampshire town, while his plight was ignored by adults. Brown did not acknowledge the problem to anyone until four years ago, when he was blindsided by a severe bout of post-traumatic stress. Now he is a child protection activist, and shares his story with other members on the MaleSurvivor.org
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