UNITED STATES
Waiting for Godot to Leave
Kevin O’Brien
It was one of the worst Masses I’ve ever attended. It was almost sacrilegious.
To begin with, the tabernacle was off to the side, and in front of it were the backs of several chairs; for the focus on this church is not Jesus, but the priest. The priest, who looked resplendent in his green gown, was clearly on stage, clearly performing. He would joke with the deacon and the altar boys. While preparing for the Eucharist, for example (during the “hymn for preparation”), he was ribbing an altar boy, who was carrying a paten, making the kid smile broadly and laugh, and making me sick to my stomach.
When I got there, before the Mass began, I knelt on the floor to pray (for the pews had no kneelers). The church was packed with middle-aged to elderly people who were all talking very loudly to one another, all at once. A giddy carnival atmosphere prevailed. It was a party without the little cocktail wieners – right there, in a Catholic church, in front of the hidden (but present) Blessed Sacrament. People were laughing and talking at the top of their lungs and I was tempted to stand up and shout in my loudest voice, CAN’T YOU PEOPLE SHUT UP?
Then the band started. The band consisted of a woman singing very loudly in a stylistic cross between Broadway show tunes and full-fledged opera, with a very cultivated (and ridiculous) vibrato that she apparently thought made her sound sincere. The instrument that dominated was a cheesy 1970’s electric organ played in a very schmaltzy and annoying manner, with the volume turned up to 11. The band was right beside the altar, very much a part of the show. …
Meanwhile, a blogger on the internet is busy analyzing a case of sexual abuse and institutional failure in the Episcopalian community.
Joelle Casteix at the Worth Adversary writes (my emphasis) …
In 2003, Headmaster Nick Stoneman had a choice.
His drama teacher had been found with child pornography on a school computer. This same teacher—Lynn Seibel—had admitted to being complicit in “Naked Dance Parties” with male students in school bathrooms. Seibel was also rumored to have conducted a special AP (Advanced Placement) class in penis enlargement. What is the headmaster of one of the nation’s most elite boarding / day schools to do?
Shattuck-St. Mary’s (SSM) in Faribault, Minnesota is considered a “feeder school” for the National Hockey league. Their alumni list is a “who’s who” of the professional sport. Tuition is $29,000 a year for the day students and $43,000 for students who live at the school. There’s a lot at stake. Plus, Stoneman had no idea how many students had been “peeked at,” groomed, or molested by Seibel. He also had no idea if Seibel had created pornographic images of any of SSM’s students. …
What’s the connection between these two stories, the annoying Mass I went to on Saturday and the scandal at the Minnesota prep school?
I think there are several connections.
* When an institution does not do what it is supposed to do, it can easily get hijacked by scoundrels who use it for their own selfish purposes, whether those purposes include molesting young people, creating a personality cult, making money, etc.
* Lay Catholics have become, for the most part, “sheep without a shepherd”. While our popes have been preaching with courage and vigor, our bishops have in effect abdicated, and many of our pastors are feeding upon the flock instead of guarding it. In this way we are similar to adolescents. Teen aged boys at a boarding school can either be trained, and their energies channeled, so that they learn and are well formed and begin to mature, or they can be seduced into “naked dance parties” in the bathroom with their drama teacher. In the same way, adult parishioners can either be taught to be respectful and to be in awe of a God that they should take seriously, partaking of a Faith they should mature in, or they can be allowed to become chatty and petty and self-centered and shallow, growing queer over a man in glowing green vestments that, if he were not a priest, they shouldn’t even consider buying a used car from. Human nature cuts both ways, and people are shaped into the molds their shapers mold for them in. Allow naked dance parties in the bathroom at your boarding school, and you will get them. Allow the Mass to become a contrived and frivolous show, and you’ll get it.
* But these things don’t arise merely if they’re simply allowed or tolerated. Naked dance parties with your teachers don’t spring up on their own, and suburban parishes do not automatically slide toward the kind of garish and gaudy circle-jerk sessions that I saw on Saturday. Yes, these things will happen if you allow them to happen, and if you don’t take pains to prevent them or correct them – but they typically happen after a long process of grooming. Things get this bad deliberately, when bad people in positions of authority seduce and lead astray. I would suspect it took the drama teacher at Shattuck-St. Mary’s a long time to get his victims to a point where they would get naked for him in the bathroom. He must have put a lot of effort and manipulative skill into that. Grooming is not easy! And the kind of show the priest I saw on Saturday presided over, a show centered on him and his need for attention and adoration – this is something these parishioners likewise had to be groomed for, over the long haul. And so, while there’s always a tendency for these abuses to happen, there’s always some sort of abuser taking an active role to make them happen.
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