Breaking the Silence: Second Terre Haute Man to Join Abuse Lawsuit
Recounts Time with Priest
Terre Haute Man Becomes 13th to File in Suit against Harry Monroe
By Stephanie Salter
The Tribune Star
August 19, 2006
[See also Lawyers
on Both Sides of Abuse Case Fight 'Zealously' for Their Clients, by
Stephanie Salter, Tribune Star (8/19/06).]
TERRE HAUTE — In the dim light of a downtown coffee house, the years
and troubles are undetectable. "John Doe CD" looks like any
thirtysomething ducking in for a cup of joe on his way to or from work.
Outside in the bright light of day, his still boyish but worn face tells
His first rehab program at age 15; three jail sentences for drug possession,
including nearly a year for methamphetamine; a divorce; a child with another
woman; and, these days, two different anti-depressants, intensive outpatient
therapy at Hamilton Center and AA meetings every day — as ordered
by a judge.
"It isn't something that just happens and goes away," he said.
"It comes back when you least expect it. It comes back in negative
What the young man says happened many years ago was child sexual abuse
by Harry E. Monroe, once a priest and youth minister at St. Patrick Church
in Terre Haute. Thursday, when the former altar boy's attorney, Patrick
Noaker, filed a suit in Vigo County Superior Court, Doe CD became the
13th man to formally accuse Monroe of molesting him as a minor.
The Archdiocese of Indianapolis also is accused of enabling the alleged
crimes. Spokesman Greg Otolski said the office could not comment on any
pending litigation, and he could not speak to "what happened 30 years
ago." But he reiterated that the Archdiocese is aggressive about
following up on reports of sexual misconduct and continues to offer help
to anyone who asks the church for it.
|He was an altar boy:
"John Doe CD" is the 13th man to file a civil lawsuit for
alleged child molestation against former priest Harry E. Monroe. He
says Monroe sexually abused him when he was an adolescent at St. Patrick
Church (in background) in the early 1980s. Tribune-Star / Joseph C.
Garza [scanned from print edition]
"If anybody came to us about any kind of crime they said was committed,
we'd immediately call the police ourselves," he said.
All 13 plaintiffs are adult men identified by the legal pseudonym "John
Doe" with relevant initials after. They knew Monroe as "Father
Harry," ordained in 1974 and assigned over the next 10 years to parishes
in Marion, Vigo and Perry counties.
In June, the complaint of another former St. Patrick's youth, "John
Doe WC," became the first Noaker filed here. The lawyer said at least
six Terre Haute boys and their families complained in writing of sexual
abuse to the Archbishop of Indianapolis when Monroe was at St. Pat's.
One of the boys, Daniel Limcaco, died in 1983, an apparent suicide. His
parents, Melissa and Oscar Limcaco, recounted their son's and their ordeal
in a Tribune-Star story last year. While they believe Daniel's death was
related to his alleged abuse, they do not plan to file a lawsuit.
Now 59, Monroe was a functioning priest until 1984 when, Archdiocese officials
say, his priestly faculties were revoked. During that decade, he served
in three Indianapolis parishes, then St. Patrick's, was placed on leave,
then assigned as co-pastor of three small parishes in Tell City, Troy
He has not been laicized, or defrocked, an action only the Vatican can
For several years Monroe has lived in Nashville, Tenn., and, until this
past winter, worked in a health-care facility. He no longer has a listed
telephone number. Last month, an Indianapolis Star reporter spoke briefly
with him in the driveway of his Nashville home, but the former priest
said he had been advised by his attorney to say nothing.
Monroe's Indianapolis lawyer Bryan Lee Ciyou did not respond to a request
for comment. In court filings his client has denied the accusations.
Staring at a copy of Monroe's Tennessee driver's license photo, John Doe
CD managed a tight smile.
"He's lost all his hair," he said.
In 1979, when Monroe arrived at St. Pat's, he was barely 30 and drove
a motorcycle as well as a car. Often, former parishioners say, he would
take the adolescent schoolboys for rides on the bike and on camping trips
and other outings in his car.
"Father Harry seemed to pick out the people whose parents were divorced
or who didn't have fathers around," said Doe CD, who was one of those
His parents were divorced, his father "worked all the time"
and rarely visited, and his mother held down two jobs to support her kids
and pay for Catholic school tuition. The attentions of a young, athletic
priest seemed like an answered prayer to her.
"He was a man of God. She didn't worry about me when Father Harry
took us out, even when it was late," CD said.
To the boys in Monroe's care, spending time with the priest was both fun
"He came at you more as a friend than as a priest," CD said.
Early on, Monroe held evening education sessions in the St. Patrick rectory,
the young man said: "He'd talk to us about God, but a lot of it was
sexual stuff. He'd ask us if we'd ever done this or that and tell us to
talk about it."
Then Monroe began taking a few boys to play racquetball at a tennis center
in the city.
"Afterwards, he'd go get beer for us and whiskey for him, and we'd
just cruise around in his car drinking or go back to the rectory,"
CD said. "I was 12 years old and drinking with Father Harry. I remember
one time, Father Joe [Wade] saw us carrying beer to Father Harry's room.
He didn't do anything."
Wade, who was pastor at St. Patrick's during Monroe's time there, quit
the priesthood many years ago. He did not return a voicemail left on his
home telephone in Indianapolis.
CD said it was late one night after playing racquetball with Monroe that
the priest allegedly molested him at the tennis club.
"It was just me and him. We got in the hot tub and, at first, it
was just like horsing around," he said, but the man began to fondle
the boy and himself.
"Just the way he came at you, it was like there wasn't anything wrong.
I didn't know what to think," CD said. "He did ask me if I liked
it, how I felt … he was masturbating."
CD said he was about 12 or 13 at the time. Almost in a whisper he said,
"That was my first orgasm."
In the ensuing months, the young man said, he was besieged by conflict
and confusion. Along with the group drinking sessions, he said, Monroe
introduced some of the boys to marijuana.
"The first time I got high was in the church basement at St. Pat's,"
|The details: Minnesota
attorney Patrick Noaker (right) talks with deputy clerk Annette Lindeman
after he filed a lawsuit on behalf of "John Doe CD" against
the Archdiocese of Indianapolis and former priest Harry Monroe on
Thursday at the Vigo County Courthouse. At top, Noaker talks with
Terre Haute Police Department detectives Rick Decker and Jim Richardson
after Noaker's press conference Thursday at the Vigo County Courthouse.
Tribune-Star / Joseph C. Garza [scanned from print edition]
Echoing what the Limcacos said they learned from their son before he
died, CD said Monroe told the boys their parents would prefer they experimented
with marijuana and alcohol in the safety of the priest's supervision rather
than on their own.
One night after a round of drinking, CD said, Monroe dropped off the only
other boy in the car and began to head away from CD's neighborhood. He
spoke overtly of sexual acts he liked and wanted to perform on CD, the
young man said.
"By then, I was having these feelings," he said. "You know,
'This wasn't right.' We were at the stop sign at Brown and College, and
I just said, 'Take me home.' I pushed over as far away from him as I could
against the door and told him to take me home. He did. It was 12:30 at
night. I went and woke my mom up and told her."
CD's mother consulted an attorney friend who knew of other complaints
in the parish against Monroe. Wade informed then-Archbishop Edward T.
O'Meara, and several boys were advised to send letters to the Archdiocese.
"I sat and wrote it all out and sent the letter to the Archdiocese,
and a letter came back, but I don't remember what it said," CD said.
After Easter 1981, Monroe was suspended from priestly duties at St. Patrick's,
then left the parish.
"You know what kills me?" CD said. "Father Joe and Sister
Ann Carver — after they'd sent Father Harry away — they pulled
me out of class over to the rectory and told me I should write him a letter
and tell him I forgive him. I couldn't believe they did that. I couldn't
believe they had the nerve … They almost made me feel like it was my fault."
CD said he was so angry he told the pastor and nun "there was no
way" he would write Monroe. After that, he said, he could no longer
even speak to the sister. Soon, "I quit going to church and I stayed
away for years. I still pretty much do."
Carver left her religious order around 1983 and moved to Massachusetts.
No one answered a telephone listing for her, and there was no voicemail.
Still in early adolescence, CD said he began to drink heavily, use drugs
when he could get them and neglect his school work. He was depressed and
"I had problems, thinking, 'Am I a homosexual?' I became very promiscuous
— to prove to myself," he said. Even though he "always
knew there were others" at St. Pat's who'd had similar experiences,
"I figured I had done something to cause him to come after me. There's
a lot of shame that goes with that, embarrassment."
He entered his first substance abuse rehabilitation program at 15 and
abandoned school. Later, as an adult, he managed to get his G.E.D.
CD currently works in a blue collar job that occupies his nights. His
days are filled with therapy and 12-step meetings and a little time with
his girlfriend of 18 months. He tries to be a father to his grade school-age
son, he said.
Before the month is over, CD again will face the judge and learn if he
is allowed to remain in a supervised work-parole program or has to serve
out the last of his sentence behind bars.
Whatever happens to him personally, he said, he feels "it was just
the right thing to do" to join the other men in their lawsuits.
"When I realized there was more than just me, more people out there
that haven't said anything and are just living with it … It would probably
be best to admit it and open up to it. If it's all kept in the closet,
nothing's going to be done about it. I think that's what the church has
done, keep it in the dark," he said.
Asked how he responds to people who say it's unfair to the church today
to keep dredging up old allegations of past abuse, CD said:
"They never had to go through it. They don't understand it sticks
with you, it scars you. The effects — homosexuality, drug use, alcohol
abuse, shame, being afraid you'll be ostracized because of it … He [Monroe]
should be held responsible for what he did, and the Archdiocese covered
it up from the get-go. You would have figured — those letters to
the archbishop — they would have done something."
Still estranged from the Catholic Church, he said he is of no mind to
leave the past alone, especially if it means alleged abusers — no
matter how old they are or in what jobs they work — might be free
to victimize other children.
"It has to stop, whatever it takes. It should have stopped a long
time ago. If it had been any other person in any other field," he
said of Monroe, "they'd have arrested him."
Stephanie Salter can be reached at (812) 231-4229 or email@example.com.